Behavior is EVERYTHING
For eight long years, I was stuck, trying to decipher the reasons behind the changes in my son Eric, the challenges faced by my aging parents, and the demands of a high-pressure job. I was consumed by a quest for understanding, but I learned a crucial lesson: generally, it's not the reason that matters, but the behavior itself.
This realization led me to develop "Love Another Way" - a transformative approach that shifts our focus from understanding why people behave a certain way to addressing how their behavior affects us. It's about setting clear boundaries and communicating effectively, not to change others, but to empower ourselves.
What Love Another Way Offers:
● Empowerment: Learn to separate the behavior from the person and focus on how it affects you.
● Effective Communication: Strategies to express your needs and boundaries without getting lost in the 'why'.
● Self-Focus: A journey of self-discovery, learning to respond to behaviors impacting you, regardless of their reasons.
On this page, we delve into why behavior is the cornerstone of change and how "Love Another Way" can revolutionize your life through this shift in focus. This approach isn't just about observing behavior; it's about understanding its profound impact on us and learning how to respond in ways that empower us.
Redefining Responses: Beyond the Root of Behavior
Join me in exploring a game-changing strategy for dealing with life's challenges — focusing on behavior, not its causes.
I unveil a mind map that redefines our approach to personal empowerment and conflict resolution.
Through personal stories and real-life examples, I demonstrate the power of shifting from 'why' to 'how' we're affected by behavior.
Dive into a new way of understanding and responding to behavior with me.
Choosing Your Lane
Go further into the intricate balance of making decisions based solely on behavior.
Here I break down a vital concept…
… Behavior is the sum of our behavior and the other person’s behavior, and altering our response can shift the entire dynamic.
I also provide another example of how to differentiate between behaviors that affect us (our lane) and those that don't (not our lane).
Navigating Life’s Lanes
Joy nails the core reason why navigating what is our lane and what is not is so hard. Doesn’t matter if we are talking about our “hard” kids, our aging parents, our bosses or our friends. It’s a skill we need to develop.
Holiday Harmony
How redefining holiday traditions and embracing flexibility led to an unexpectedly joyful celebration, all while Joy stayed entirely in her own lane.
The Raw Power of the Simple “Pause”
Tune in on this simple yet profound shift from instant reactions to thoughtful responses, reshaping family dynamics.
Avoiding that Vicious Escalating Cycle of Behavior & Response
One student asks Barbara exactly HOW to end the escalating cycle they find themselves in over and over. There are options, as Barbara explains.
Beyond Reasons: A Fresh Focus
My view on “why” looking for the root reasons for another person’s behavior keeps us stuck - and what we can do instead.
A Complete Shift from “Superwoman Syndrome” to “Love Another Way”
One student who “loves the behavior thing” and how she shifted from enabling to empowering, complete with an unexpected and rewarding outcome.
Proper Strategies Are Essential For Success
In our programs, we emphasize a skill-centric approach, teaching you effective techniques to achieve better outcomes. One such invaluable skill we prioritize is having an exit strategy readily available. Our students frequently integrate this skill with others, leading to profound transformations in their lives.
We have several videos for you showcasing this skill.
On Reframing “Mistakes” and Advice Giving
In this video, Larissa demonstrates an exit strategy and then reevaluates what she saw as her past “mistakes''. Plus an exploration of how most people feel when we give them our wise and well-intended advice.
Mastering the Exit and Adding a Boundary
How a simple exit plan combined with a clear boundary can transform challenging family dynamics.
Kathy's Composure: A Family Reconciliation
Kathy prepared her exit strategy and never needed to use it. She shares exactly how she was able to respond during a heated family discussion.
A Rainy Day Realization
Experience a mother's poignant moment of clarity during a rainy day confrontation, leading to an unexpected apology and a deeper understanding of boundaries. A real-life lesson in the power of Love Another Way.
Transforming Relationships through Communication:
One Graduate's Journey
Debby, one of our graduate students, shares her poignant journey of transforming her relationship with her son. Debby's story highlights the power of changing one's own behavior to foster understanding and communication in challenging family dynamics. Her experience is a testament to the profound impact of self-reflection and adaptability in healing and strengthening relationships.
From Stress to Self-Care and Joy
Kathy figured out how to look after herself and stay in her own lane using Love Another Way. And this led to deeper appreciation and a more collaborative family dynamic.
Kathy's Shift: Applying Behavioral Strategies Broadly
Kathy illustrates the power of focusing on behavior across all aspects of life. She recounts adeptly handling a sensitive conversation with a friend, avoiding negativity while maintaining a positive and calm demeanor. Her story showcases the wide-reaching effects of our Love Another Way strategies, influencing not just challenging situations but enhancing overall personal interactions. Kathy's approach is a beacon for positive change, demonstrating how behavioral insights can enrich our entire life.
Embark on Your Journey with the Love Another Way Framework
Discover the paths to a life enriched with peace, less stress, and stronger relationships. Embrace the Love Another Way Framework to unlock these possibilities.
Ready to Transform? Choose Your Path:
Mastering Effective Communication: Ready to communicate more effectively and get your needs met? Click here for our free online workshop and click here to read our page, both of which will guide you to clearer, more impactful interactions. [Transformative Communications]
Parent-Child Dynamics in the Face of Addiction or Mental Illness: This option is specifically designed for parents navigating the complex and sensitive dynamics of having a child grappling with addiction or mental illness. It offers strategies and insights on establishing healthy boundaries, available through our engaging online workshop or our informative page. [Transformative Boundaries Experience]
Navigating Complex Behaviors in Adult Children: This option is for parents facing tough situations with their child, where challenging behaviors arise, for any reason or no known reason. It offers insights and methods for establishing meaningful boundaries. Engage with our online workshop or explore our informative page for practical and supportive advice. [Transformative Boundaries Experience]
Beyond Parent-Child Relationships: Seeking boundary-setting strategies with someone other than your child? This online workshop and page were built for parent-child relationships, but the process is the same for any relationship. Click here to listen in to get a sense of who we are here, or read this page and then click here to connect with Patti, our lead coach with any questions about how the approach applied to your situation. [Transformative Boundaries Experience]
Undecided? Let's Talk: Can't decide between the Transformative Boundaries Experience and Transformative Communications? No worries. Click here to schedule a chat with a coach, who will guide you to the best choice for your journey.
We're excited to meet you and support you in Loving Another Way. Start your transformative journey today!
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Behavior is EVERYTHING
Using The Very Same Methodology Responsible For Every Single Invention, Discovery or Innovative Breakthrough In The Past 500 Years!
For eight long years, I was stuck, trying to decipher the reasons behind the changes in my son Eric, the challenges faced by my aging parents, and the demands of a high-pressure job. I was consumed by a quest for understanding, but I learned a crucial lesson: generally, it's not the reason that matters, but the behavior itself.
This realization led me to develop "Love Another Way" - a transformative approach that shifts our focus from understanding why people behave a certain way to addressing how their behavior affects us. It's about setting clear boundaries and communicating effectively, not to change others, but to empower ourselves.
What Love Another Way Offers:
● Empowerment: Learn to separate the behavior from the person and focus on how it affects you.
● Effective Communication: Strategies to express your needs and boundaries without getting lost in the 'why'.
● Self-Focus: A journey of self-discovery, learning to respond to behaviors impacting you, regardless of their reasons.
On this page, we delve into why behavior is the cornerstone of change and how "Love Another Way" can revolutionize your life through this shift in focus. This approach isn't just about observing behavior; it's about understanding its profound impact on us and learning how to respond in ways that empower us.
Instead of developing the skills to create your life the way you want it, you may have neglected your own needs and priorities.
It’s an ingrained expectation placed upon women the world over, that transcends religion, race or culture.
And so here you are, in the second half of your life, and you’re ready to finally make yourself a priority and make some changes.
You have an idea about what you want to change… but perhaps nothing you’ve tried has worked?
Maybe you got started on making a shift in some area of your life, but then got derailed somehow.
Or you got stuck because you didn’t even know where to start.
And yet here you are, still searching for a way. Because, you’re someone who is committed to your own personal growth and you’re ready to try something different.
I’m Barbara Decker and for nearly 60 years my life felt like I was a little rowboat being tossed around by the waves of a tumultuous ocean.
There were things that I wanted for myself, but I kept being “bowled over” by life and didn’t know how to make the changes I wanted to make.
Just when I thought things had settled down, another “wave” would come crashing into me.
And so it went.
Month after month. Year after year. Decade after decade.
Always feeling like there was more to life that I wanted, yet completely unsure how to bring about lasting change.
The urge to “give up” and resign myself to half a life was always there.
But there was also a fire in my belly and a deep knowing in my heart that never went away.
It was that fire that led me on a journey to discover the secret to making real, lasting change in my life.
As it turns out, it’s the very same approach that’s been responsible for every new discovery, every technological advancement, and every medical breakthrough in the last 500+ years.
It’s known simply as ‘The Scientific Method’ and I’ve adapted it for myself — and for you, if you choose — in a process I now call:
The Pathway to Peace Protocol
Science isn't just about test tubes and lab coats... It's about observation, analysis, and repeatable results.
Now imagine applying that same rigorous logic to your life.
This isn’t your typical personal development program. No, The Pathway to Peace Protocol is rooted in proven scientific principles — carefully engineered to reignite your zest for life.
So, if you’ve ever felt like a supporting character in your own life narrative... Being there for everyone else, but wondering when it's your turn, I invite you to…
Imagine A Life Where You’re Not Just Surviving, But Truly Thriving
This protocol is all about providing practical tools and strategies that align with your unique needs and goals.
There are no one-size-fits-all solutions here!
If you’re tired of settling for an existence when you could be reveling in a vibrant life, then let's embrace the beauty of science together.
To date, thousands of women just like us have used it to reshape the course of their lives.
If, like me, you hear the whisper in your heart and are ready to answer the call, The Pathway to Peace Protocol is your ticket to personal power and newfound joy and freedom.
You will receive access to an exclusive video I've recorded for you explaining The Pathway to Peace Protocol in detail.
You also get a comprehensive workbook to guide you through each step of the process.
And multiple examples of real women using this Protocol.
So instead of basing your choices around the needs of others, you choose what’s best for you, first and foremost.
I’m not exaggerating when I say this process has the power to completely transform every area of your life if you take it to heart and use it.
Thousands of women just like us have already benefited from this simple yet transformative approach to personal growth.
Now it's your turn!
Your happiness is too important to be left on the back burner any longer.
You are so worth it!
Barbara 🙏
Dear friend,
Has life handed you a plate overflowing with worries, grievances, and complicated problems that seem to be going nowhere but south? If it has, I want you to know that you are not alone. It's the unspoken truth of growing older - as we gain more wisdom, we also tend to pick up more stress along the way. I remember when my friend Sharon and I were sitting at her kitchen table, sipping on lukewarm coffee, discussing just this.
Sharon is not unlike you and me. She's seen her fair share of difficulties: complicated family dynamics, struggles with age-related health concerns, concerns over financial stability, among others. And she too felt lost in the storm of these challenges. But then something amazing happened...
Sharon discovered a pathway... a pathway to peace. She found herself transformed from an overworked, under-appreciated woman into a poised, self-assured lady who commands respect in every sphere of her life.
