Tried Everything. Nothing Worked. Until Now.

How THIS Mom Saved Her Son And Developed A Modern Solution For Other Moms And Their Children Who Struggle With Addiction.

Using My Love Another Way (™) Framework

A Sneak Peek Into Your Potential Future...

See Why This Mom is Smiling

Give it a try. It’s worth it. 

Beth was so elated by her results, she told us to share her phone number

Meet Beth. She wants everyone to enjoy this life-changing Experience. She’s even included her phone number. She explains why she is willing to publish her phone number.

“I know how lonely and devastating it feels when we are at the end of our ropes. I believe our brains get addled so we can't even think clearly to come up with a solution - and I would like to be that understanding someone a person could talk to in that instance.”

There are many other parents who find themselves in the same position I did. I feel compelled to write this testimonial about this program. It has changed my life and I hope it will change yours too. There is a program that works.

Meet my adult daughter. She has been an alcoholic for several decades and her life and the lives of her family members have been negatively affected in every possible way. I had tried many forms of treatment for myself and my daughter, including individual and group counseling, very expensive rehabilitation programs, detox programs, and years of Al-Anon meetings, etc.

I was physically and mentally spent. I had given up even looking for help. I had resigned myself to the fact that there was nothing more I could do.

You might think this is too good to be true. I am here to tell you that there is something powerful and helpful you can do - enroll in this program. Information about it miraculously appeared in my inbox when I had completely given up hope, was at a very low point in my life, and was praying for a solution.

Barbara Decker is very humble and hesitant to promote herself or the program, but I'm here to tell you that it's too good to keep a secret.

She knows what it's like to have a child in active addiction. She involved educated and experienced clinicians in the development of it and has produced a program that works. She is extremely empathetic as a result of having personally gone through the agony of having a child in active addiction for several years. Barbara has also done the work by interacting with several clinicians to help her son and herself.

In addition to that, she has spent years educating herself on addiction and continues to take courses to continue her personal education, continually improving different aspects of the course.

She is wise. She is a caring facilitator whose experience is making a huge difference in the lives of her students. And she's helping to provide positive outcomes for many of our addicted children.

When I first heard about this program, I was hesitant. I had vowed I wouldn’t spend another penny on any program. I used to think I knew how to love my children. But then I learned addiction changes everything and that this truly was different. It taught us to love our children, but in another more beneficial and less enabling way - the only way that really works.

My situation used to feel hopeless. But now I have valuable tools to handle anything that comes up. My daughter and I have started having meaningful interactions about serious issues and I feel hopeful for the future.

I am so grateful that I made the decision to be part of this supportive, caring group with Barbara Decker at the helm. She is committed to each student, attentive to detail, quick to size up a problem and provide possible positive ways to look at it and handle it - without being condescending or preachy - just loving, caring, knowledgeable and wise. Find out for yourself.

I wholeheartedly recommend this program. It's changed my life and I'm sure it can change yours, too. Give it a try. It's worth it.

Respectfully submitted with gratitude and appreciation,

Beth Wallace
New Westminster, British Columbia, Canada

It’s Time To Break Free of the "Mom Code" So You Can Make a Real Difference For Your Child

(Mom Code - automatic behavior based on your natural maternal instincts.)

You have always made decisions via the "Mom Code." Of course you have! We all follow this natural instinct. You protect your child. You offer your unconditional love and support. Especially now, during addiction and maybe also mental illness.

Addiction is here now in your world! This fact changes EVERYTHING.

Parenting an addict is just plain different from what we’ve learned our whole lives.

It’s hard to accept that this could be true.

Making decisions based on the "Mom Code" leads to more heartbreak and frustration. It often leads to more enabling.

And doing anything else seems impossible. It hurts to go against your natural instincts. This is why the ‘tough love’ approach doesn’t work for most people.

Which One Sounds the Most Like You?

  • “I’m exhausted. I’ve tried everything but nothing seems to work.”
  • “I second guess every decision I make. I never know if I am doing or saying the right thing.”
  • “I feel guilty. It's my fault my son or daughter is addicted.”
  • “I just want to go back to the good ‘ol days. When my kiddo was doing so well."
  • “I’m desperate to help my child overcome his/her addiction. I usually get ignored, twisted, or rebuffed. What else can I do?”
  • “When my child has a bad day, my whole day is ruined. It's enough to make me want to hide under the covers.”
  • “I’ve done the research, read the books, tried to set boundaries and still can’t get through to my child. It’s enough to make you want to scream.”

You know how it feels. You’ve been carrying the weight of
your adult child’s addiction for a while now?

But even with the best intentions, you just aren't able to "fix" them.

We're here to tell you: There’s hope!

THE GOOD NEWS IS THIS. You can still communicate your love and support for your child. You can do this while protecting your well-being. You can do this in a way that improves your child’s chance of recovering.

You can learn to Love Another Way(™).

Built on my own Love Another Way(™) Framework. 

And ONLY available right here.

It’s time to stop using the “Mom Code”.

Loving Another Way helps you move out of the instinctual "Mom Code", by shifting the dynamic of your relationship with your child, as you move into a new parenting approach.

This new approach guarantees a better quality of life for you. And this new approach is what gives you the best chance possible of improving your child’s quality of life.

This is the only available step-by-step actual strategy for Moms.

Your family is falling apart. But there is hope.

The Transformative Boundaries Experience

is the most effective way to give your child opportunities for recovery while you regain peace in your home and your heart.  

Self-doubt. Guilt. Worry.

It's time to stop living with these feelings. Take control of your life today.
It's time to turn weakness into strength and hope for your child.

Take control of your life today. 

Love is not enough.

You can develop the very specific skills you need to Love Another Way. The Transformative Boundaries Experience is built to do exactly that. You practice using your new skills of love, strength, and consistency in the proper way. Doing this is what actually allows opportunities for your child to choose recovery.



Imagine knowing the right words to say. Imagine knowing how to set truly Transformative Boundaries. Imagine knowing how to do this all in a way that shows your unwavering love and support.

Meet the secret weapon for surviving this. What if you had the right kind of support? What if you weren’t relying solely on that "Mom Code" parenting instinct? What if the people you talk with really understood what you are going through?

Imagine if you didn’t feel so desperate and helpless about what to do NOW.

It's time to stop worrying about your child's future.

We can help you finally conquer years of self-doubt and worry. And do that while actually giving your child opportunities to choose recovery.

You Know Exactly How This Feels

You are a solution-oriented mom:

  • Longing to stop the painful overwhelm and welcome more peace and control into your life.
  • Open to radical new ideas.
  • Eager to build a healthier, more supportive relationship with your child.
  • Ready to roll up your sleeves and take action with a plan that guides your every step.

If that’s you, I’m so glad you found your way here.

Because this is different from anything else you’ve tried.
This just plain works!

(Because it is crafted exactly for Moms like you.)


Works For...

  • Every Mom who has ever worked through the program!
  • Moms with kids in active addiction
  • Moms with kids in active recovery
  • Whether it's addiction or mental illness
  • Moms with kids living at home
  • Moms with kids living across the country or points unknown
  • Moms who have therapists and those that don't
  • Moms who go to support groups already and those that don't
  • Moms whose kids ultimately succumb to this illness

Every MOM who has ever worked it!

Your life is about to change.

The Transformative Boundaries Experience is an 8-week group journey designed specifically for women who are ready to reclaim their own well-being. It is for women eager to support their adult children in a new way.

It is for women seeking peace, confidence and something that finally works.

Your Experience starts the moment you step inside The Transformative Boundaries Experience. You feel safe, heard, and appreciated. Confusion and frustration begin to subside. Hope renews.

You worry all the time about your child’s welfare. There is no time left for you. But it doesn't have to be this way.

… You know that feeling. When you have an addicted child, every choice feels like the wrong one. Imagine being free of that constant worry. Imagine not having to second-guess yourself everyday. Imagine not thinking ALL the time about whether your choice will help or harm your child.

… Imagine being able to sleep through the night.

Don't worry. You don't have to imagine it.

You DO have some power left. Use that power to make a positive change in your own life. And when you do, you'll encourage your child to make healthier choices too.

Kathie C

J. C.

It All Starts Here!
Over the course of 8 weeks you discover:

  • A calmer mind. More peace. More happiness.
  • You're doing the right thing. For you. For your child. For your entire family.
  • You’re grounded. Resilient. Ready for anything. You use your new skills and this unique step-by-step decision making process.


Ready to join?

Have questions about The Transformative Boundaries Experience?

It’s Time To Connect Your Head To Your Heart, Step-By-Step...

STEP #1: Understand the strangleholds impacting your life

What are your expectations for your relationship? What do you envision? Before you can answer those questions, it’s vital you unravel things.

It’s vital to recognize the truth about what addiction does. And how the person you see, hear, and talk to now is not the child you once nurtured and raised. Your child is still there, you just can’t see him or her right now.

Give yourself permission to grieve the ‘loss’ of the child you expected to have at this time. It’s okay to not be okay.

Let me guess, you’ve sidetracked your own dreams and goals to be present for your child. But at what cost? We’ll gently focus on these ideas. You will discover how to get back to yourself. And you’ll start to understand why you must do so to help your child.

You deserve more. No matter how painful or challenging your situation, YOU, Dear Mom, require nurturing too. Peace and joy are your birthright! Let’s hit “pause” and shine a light on your dreams. That way, you’re energized to reset your priorities and pick a few select goals to help you bloom again.

Zero in on the #1 thing you DO have control over, that can instantly begin improving your relationship. It’s time to stop lamenting the past and move ahead more powerfully ― for yourself and your child.

And yes, you’re ready.

STEP #2: Don’t repeat your old mistakes. Unearth lessons of the past to prepare for new boundaries

What boundaries have you already tried with your child? What were the choices available at the time? What was the impact on your child’s behavior? What would you have done differently?

Your life is about to change. Examine vital questions like these in a personalized, systematic manner. Then, you can begin building NEW Transformative Boundaries. Your Transformative Boundaries rest on a solid foundation. This solid foundation comes from your clear-minded assessment, instead of in-the-moment panic. You ensure a better response and avoid repeating past mistakes.

You don’t have to feel this way anymore. Let’s whittle away at the frenzy of trying to react the “right” way, right away, whenever your child reaches out. You deserve to make composed, focused decisions you can feel proud and certain of.

STEP #3: Build strong boundaries that serve your needs

Boundaries. There’s a secret to creating successful boundaries almost ALL parents miss - and now you’re in the know.

What makes a successful relationship boundary? What’s fantasy and wishful thinking, and what’s REAL? How can you tell the difference? What are the pitfalls? (and yes, they’re lurking everywhere) How can you speak your truth and stop tiptoeing around?

Imagine finally understanding why your child reacts the way they do. The Transformative Boundaries Experience is carefully crafted. It’s actually set up to help you create and refine meaningful boundaries that are right for you. It helps you measure the impact. And it allows you to finally make a real and positive difference with your child.

Addiction is a disease. And your child is still responsible for their choices. With The Transformative Boundaries Experience, you start building personal resilience and control. This allows you to better help your child stand on their own. This prevents you from getting knocked down with every interaction.

STEP #4: It’s time to put your “big girl” pants on.

It’s time! Over the next three weeks, you’ll select, personalize, and practice 3 boundaries. You choose 3 separate topics you wish to address with your adult child. Equipped with these new boundaries, you stop second guessing yourself. You make decisions in a more calm, quiet, consistent way.

Experiment, iterate, test, evaluate! It’s okay, you’re perfectly safe. You’ll tweak and adjust to optimize your influence and results.

Stop feeling alone. Share your experiences as much (or as little) as you wish with other parents in the group. That way, you feel supported, empowered, and understood. Plus, you get your questions answered. You discover new perspectives for success with your boundaries and in your relationship.

You don’t have to do this alone. 

The Transformative Boundaries Experience provides both of the key components you need. It includes the Love Another Way model itself, and it includes a very special community.

Both are critically important!

And both are included.

My Love Another Way model develops your skill. You discover exactly how to set and hold loving boundaries with your child. (Both recovery professionals and addicts tell us this is what they most need from us moms.)

My special community provides the support, inspiration, and new ideas you must have.

Loving Another Way.
Setting Transformative Boundaries.


… No more fighting. You start enjoying more days of peace. You are relieved to be providing your child with opportunities to choose to help him or herself.

… You know you are doing everything you can for your child.

You sleep. At least some of the time. Your mind is often free from that constant worry. You start to feel a little like your old self.

Life is full. You catch yourself actually having more time, energy and focus for yourself. Other people you love notice that you are more present. You delight in getting back to doing some of the things you love.

… There's a model for this. A step-by-step model. You’re relieved knowing what to do when your child reaches out to you about something new.


My Son Is Addicted To Drugs

On December 4, 2013, my almost perfect life crashes and burns, when I receive a disturbing phone call about my son.

This conversation is going to turn my world upside down. I've taught the right values, surrounded my boys with loving family, and worked hard at being a good parent. My reward is my happy family and my healthy grown children. I know I delivered two wonderful men to the world.

That is what I know to be true before that phone call.

Now, at almost 22, my intelligent, literate son has suddenly slipped into psychosis. He’s landed in the hospital. The doctors are unsure whether Eric’s problems are a result of mental illness or drug usage.

I am confused and in terror.

It becomes obvious, to me, that I did something wrong. I fell asleep at the wheel. I allowed bad things to happen in my family.

It's my fault, so it's up to me to find a way to “fix” it.

This is the start of MY journey.

My son is lost.

I push and pull every way I can to find him. I meet lots of people, many compassionate and helpful, others not so much. Along the way, there is an intervention, and Eric is admitted to a psychiatric facility. There are arrests and jail time.

There are many periods when I lose contact with Eric as he lives homeless and in a state of continual anger at me.

When I think about Eric, my heart aches.

I live in worry about his safety and welfare and cannot seem to focus on anything else. My pain is constant and intense, and I feel powerless to change things.

I start to work informally with parents who are in pain and feel powerless to help their child. I also talk with lots of parents who have moved beyond the pain. I talk with parents who were able to find peace and joy, not connected in any way to their child’s well-being.

Patterns emerge.

What started as an attempt to fix someone eventually became a lesson in fixing myself.

It's not an easy lesson to learn, but learning it changed my life.

And it changed Eric's life also.

It was a painful and scary journey. But finding peace and joy in my life while my son was at risk and in active addiction was something I had to do. I didn't achieve this all the time, but did manage to find more and more minutes each day, every day.

I retired from the corporate world. I decided to spend my “golden years” helping as many parents as I can get as much peace as possible. This is the purpose my mind keeps coming back to.

This is what my heart keeps pulling me to. So many parents are wrestling with similar demons and living in pain.

I need to share as much of what I’ve learned.

So, here I am, inviting you to join me in The Transformative Boundaries Experience...

Update on Eric...

Eric is now in recovery (recovery date 4/30/18). He got there not because of what I did, but because of what he learned and did. I truly enjoy every moment I spend with him and am blessed to have him working on this project on the tech side of things. I feel incredibly proud of the work he has done and the person he has become.

I found my own peace long before Eric entered recovery. I know I now have the support and tools I need to weather whatever life brings.

Eric is a tech genius and helping me put this program together and deliver it to all of you. He is 1000% behind what I’m doing here, and I would not be doing it or telling my story without his full blessing.

(Picture above is me and Eric
at Christmas together 2018 :))

I’m Giving Away My Secrets

The Transformative Boundaries 8-Week Online Training Program. It features 4 Modules & 4 Secret Messages. I walk you through, step-by-step, EXACTLY how I healed myself & my son. And I give you the tools I built out of my experiences.

Module 1:

Your priorities are about to change. ‘Transformative Priorities' gives you a step-by-step recipe. This novel approach helps you identify clear REAL priorities for your life. This clarity is a MUST to move past your child’s addiction. Realizing that YOU have priorities is key. Making sure they are the right priorities is key. It is part of the foundation you need to shift the impact your child’s addiction has on your life.

Imagine actually having a structured plan of HOW to get what you want. Lisa has one now.

Picture this: waking up feeling healthy. Living a life based on your true priorities.

Picture this. Kim is so pumped by this change she's making for herself that she decides to post the key slide all around her house.

Module 2:

You're about to take a look into the past. Boundaries Retrospective helps you get clear on positive & negative boundaries between you and your child. This sets the stage for Module 3.

Module 2 is where you start to feel freedom to set boundaries that you actually feel good about, like Susan M.

You start to finally see the difference between a fantasy and a Transformative Boundary.

You thought you were stuck. But you're not. You just never had the right tools before.

It's the secret sauce. The secret sauce is in the tools I've built just for moms. And in the way these tools work together, so you can use boundaries constructively like Karen G.

You don't have to be this way. Move out of your same old worn patterns. It's time for something new. Start fresh today.

Module 3:

Don't be fooled by anyone. There is no magic bullet.

The Boundary-Benefit Evaluation Exercise leads you step-by-step through options you have. It is very carefully designed. You think about things you haven't considered before. You get to a place where you make the choice that is most beneficial for BOTH you and your child. You learn what truly makes a boundary transformative. Because it is the “transformative” aspect that inspires a child to choose recovery!

This framework takes everything into account. Literally

Imagine how Ann felt when she realized she had more options than she thought she had.

But here's the thing: Everyone's choice is different. You pick what is healthy for you, as Donna S points out. No one size fits all solutions here!

Delight in knowing you've chosen the best option for your family. Stop worrying about whether you've made the right choice.

This is easy. Like Jacque M goes on to say. (You too can do this!)

It's not at all overwhelming. With minute-by-minute guidance, it's actually pretty easy.

It's simple. Yet effective. And thought provoking.

YOU can do this too! It’s easy.

Module 4:

‘Practice” is where you try out your new boundary decision-making skills. This final step helps you enter the real world with confidence in yourself. This final step is where you develop confidence in your child as well. And that's key

And always, you are experimenting. You are learning what is right for you and your family.

It's ok. Like Maxine, you are feeling so relieved to know that nothing’s carved in stone. Because how can you know what you can bear - what will be useful - until you experiment? No "final answers" here!

Say goodbye to perfect. The program is laid out very intentionally so you can build your courage, your muscle in these tough situations. You find you CAN set boundaries that are right for you. You too are so proud of yourself for being able to do what is best for both you and your child.

You know it's happening. Your evolution. As you work through this important Practice, Practice, Practice module.

Hear from other graduates about how they handle these situations.

  • Allowing your addicted child contact with his or her child.
  • Challenges in raising your grandchild at this time in your life.
  • Child blaming mom for everything.
  • Child “borrowing” money.
  • Child not doing what you expect around the house.
  • Child overstaying welcome in the family home.
  • Managing phone calls and texts.
  • Transportation choices.
  • And so much more. 

It's gold. Just take a look at a very small sampling of how useful it is to actually hear the in-the-moment thought process of graduates, as they are coached through their boundary decision making process. Pure Gold!

Heal Yourself.

4 Secret Step-By-Step Healing Messages per week via email.

These healing messages tell you EXACTLY what to do to make progress. Imagine being clear on what exact thing to do each week. Picture yourself making noticeable and meaningful progress each & every day.

Imagine a day when your child's addiction no longer controls your life.

These secret messages erase the negative thoughts and fears you have, day by day. These messages help you lead a more loving, stress-free, & fun life with your family! All while giving your child his or her best chance at recovery.

You are not alone. We are here to help.
LIVE weekly group coaching with your Graduate Coach and other parents.

Each and every week throughout the program you'll join a live Progress Call with a Graduate Coach.

Graduate Coaches know, first-hand, what it means to have an addicted loved one and have completed the Transformative Boundaries Experience as a student, first. Learning first-hand what it really means to Love Another Way.

And now they want to give back by helping you on your journey toward Loving Another Way.

Imagine having their undivided attention. Focused on YOUR progress. Helping you choose what's most important for you. Offering suggestions along the way.

So that the next time your child texts or calls for money and then gets abusive or manipulative, you can say "no." You can simply remember what your Graduate Coach told you... and you exit the conversation with your loved one, with calm and grace.

You asked. I answered.

Each month, I personally host a gathering for everyone in The Transformative Boundaries Experience, where you can get my direct feedback on any issue that is present for you at that time.

You've been thinking about it. Wondering if it's right for you. Go deeper.

When I set a boundary, this is what happened... Share and get my input.

Life is full of priorities. Which ones should you focus on first? Talk it through here.

Share something that's changed for you. We'd like to applaud your growth. Others will learn from you.

... It's completely up to you!

Just know that I will be here for you, ready to help YOU sift through the noise to find your truth. Then make the choices that best align with your needs and priorities.

I know how this feels. On these calls, you find out what’s working RIGHT NOW. You discover innovative ways to respond to any situation between you and your child. And you realize how to do this in a way that encourages recovery for both of you.

These calls are life-changing.

Just ask our students how impactful these calls are.





Secret Group where you get to ask questions ANY TIME. No judgment. Safe place to be yourself.

You'll get answers from your coaches. You'll get answers from other mothers in the group to accelerate your healing process! Best of all, this group is COMPLETELY SECRET and no one but the other members & me will know you're in it. It cannot be found by anyone else.

This a SAFE, confidential, no-judgment zone.

Imagine this. A place where you can get answers to your questions - fast. A place where you can share experiences with other moms who understand what you're going through. A place where you can be part of something bigger than yourself. This is a truly special place.


BONUS #1: The LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide

You have pressing problems. Meet the LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide.

Instant access to short videos, audio clips, and stories.

These clips feature addicts. 

These clips feature recovery professionals.

These clips even feature other moms who have successfully healed addiction. 

All bite size, easy to digest, nuggets of gold. 

All in the voice of people who have successfully defeated addiction.


BONUS #2: Real Moms — Real Insights

This is where you hear real moms making real progress in their own real journeys. You’ll hear their struggles. You’ll hear their breakthroughs.

Real Moms — Real Insights includes relevant segments of live coaching calls. I’ve curated and ordered these segments to provide inspiration to you - for your own journey.

You've never seen anything like this before. This is one of the most powerful resources I've ever created, because you'll get bite-sized inspiration as you work through the program, right alongside past participants.

  • You'll hear how they felt and thought through their decisions.
  • You'll hear what worked, and what they learned.
  • You'll feel inspired to apply your new approach to loving your child, knowing that if these other moms could do it - you can do it, too!

These women will look familiar to you.

As one past participant who has asked to be anonymous said: "I recognize these ladies as friends and I don't even know them."

I know you'll feel the same when you access the Real Moms -- Real Insights bonus.

BONUS #3: Private Next-Steps Call

Life is about to change. After your 8 life-changing weeks in The Transformative Boundaries Experience, we get on a call. We create your personalized plan and keep the momentum going.

Your goal is to maintain the healing & growth of both you AND your child forever onward. This guarantees that you’re doing everything you can to heal yourself & your child. Imagine how relaxed you are for the rest of your life knowing that you’ve done everything you can.

Best of all, this program only requires about 30 minutes per day, 5 days per week.

All this is accessible through my website. No one else will ever know you're logged in. And you receive LIFETIME access to the course materials, so you can revisit the lessons anytime you need a refresher. You can reference them anytime a new problem or boundary need arises with your child.

Endorsed by Medical Professionals, Social Workers, Spiritual Leaders, Therapists and Rehabs.

The Transformative Boundaries Experience (TTBE) Program is invaluable for anyone who is struggling with a loved one being in addiction. It is primarily intended for moms of adult children in addiction.

TTBE is a group program that offers participants empathetic and non-judgmental support in addressing issues that arise with their loved ones in addiction. It focuses specifically on setting effective boundaries. This concept can be extremely difficult to navigate, but the support of the group and the expertise of the facilitators make it surprisingly uncomplicated. Once established, setting boundaries can potentially be the most effective way to free parents and loved ones from the co- dependency that addiction often fosters. Thus, it frees parents in particular from constant worry and anxiety and allows them to get their life back regardless of where their adult child is in the addiction or recovery process.

Barbara Decker is the founder and main facilitator and she is a wealth of knowledge, kindness and compassion. This program is not only beneficial for parents, but is a valuable resource for counsellors and other helping professionals who work with people who have loved ones in addiction. I strongly recommend this program.

J.K. M.Ed (Counselling Psychology), CCC, ND

Have questions about The Transformative Boundaries Experience?

Mental Peace Is Priceless. What’s Yours Worth?

First, ask yourself what your mental peace and your child’s recovery is worth to you.

It’s worth everything. 

  • To be free of the constant pain.
  • To see your child taking steps that are toward recovery.
  • To wake each morning and go to bed each night with peace in your heart. 
  • To no longer feel helpless and hopeless. 
  • To know for sure that your decisions are what is best for your child. 
  • To reclaim the relationships you have lost with others you care about. 

And on and on I could go.

Every mother would say it's priceless. But what exactly does priceless equate to? It's up to you.

Priceless is up to each Mom to decide for herself.
Many have told me they'd give everything they have, just to feel normal again for one day.

The Transformative Boundaries Experience includes:

  • 4 Online Modules
  • 4 Secret Healing Messages each week
  • Weekly calls with your Graduate Coach. Someone who was in your shoes not too long ago.
  • Love Another Way. It's not as hard as you think. Ask Barbara anything during our monthly live Coach-a-Thons.
  • Don't be alone. We're here for you. Secret, private group which is full of other solution-oriented warrior moms. Their support is beyond anything I can describe.

All the bonuses included:

  • The JumpStart Guide, a “Godsend”
  • Real Moms — Real Insights - hear directly from real moms
  • Private Next Steps Call. 

Addiction is not something that anyone should have to deal with alone
The total value of The Transformative Boundaries Experience is over $8,000.

But this information is not just for the wealthy.

So I've made it as affordable as possible.

In fact, I’m not even going to charge you $5,000…

Even though you’ve probably spent FAR more than that on different therapists and counselors and rehab that failed to help you and your child.

I know I did.

While I know that I COULD charge $5,000 for The Transformative Boundaries Experience and I’d still sleep soundly at night...

This isn’t about making a profit.

Instead, it’s about fulfilling the promise I made to myself during Eric’s addiction.

When I contemplated the point of life…

And nearly lost my son to the sad reality of drugs and alcohol.

I know what it’s like to see someone you love turn into a manipulative monster right before your eyes.

The pain you feel inside because it seems like there’s nothing that can be done... Until now.

And the idea that addiction is just a fact of life that we have to accept...

I almost lost my inner peace…

And my child.

I don’t want you to lose yours, too.

That is why I created The Transformative Boundaries Experience for you.

And that's why, when you say YES to a clear mind and your child's best chance at recovery...

You won’t need to spend $5,000.

Heck, you won’t even need to spend $2,500.

Your investment today is just 3 equal payments of $597 (or a one time investment of $1497.)

Don’t Feel Powerless Anymore!

Every day that you live with the uncertainty about how to do what is best for you and what is best for your child. What is the feeling of powerlessness costing you?


You know how it is. As parents, if supporting or helping our child out of their pain means spending many thousands of dollars to do so, we will find a way, even if we can’t afford it.

But when it comes time to invest in help for ourselves, well, that’s often a different story.

Since you’re here, you already know that in order to give your child the best chance at choosing recovery, you need to look after your own well being first.

You are deserving. You matter too. You are so worth it.

Karen J.

Donna S


It’s Time To Make A Change.
Get Started For As Little As $597 Today

Frequently Asked Questions

We know how important this is. That's why we've included the most important information as concisely as possible. Check it out.

Are you for real?

Yes, I’m for real. :)

Does The Transformative Boundaries Experience work?

YES, it works. The Transformative Boundaries Experience is for parents of children who struggle with drug or alcohol addiction or a process addiction. It works for people who have mental illnesses. I developed this program based on EXACTLY what worked to heal myself AND my son from his addiction. And the program has helped thousands of parents heal themselves (and many of their children, too).




Is this Tough Love?

It's not. Even the term "Tough Love" is not consistently understood these days. This is another way to love an addicted child. It is a way that encourages his or her recovery!

How much time will this take?

Plan on 2-3 hours a week, and you’ll be off to a great start. There is also bonus content if you have more time. The whole program only takes about 8 weeks. 8 weeks is probably FAR less time than you’ve spent struggling with your child’s addiction.

Am I doing this alone?

You are not alone. We have an entire community of supportive women. We help one another in a way that is beautiful to see, so sincere and connected. Life-long friendships are formed.

Best of all, this group is COMPLETELY SECRET and no one but the other members & me will know you’re in it. It cannot be found by anyone else.

How much support will I get?

More than you could ever imagine. You have our full support through the entire experience.

You'll receive complete access to my exclusive, SECRET group. Coaches answer all questions, even on weekends.

Each and every week throughout the program you'll join a live Progress Call with a Graduate Coach. Graduate Coaches know, firsthand, what it means to have an addicted loved one and have completed the Transformative Boundaries Experience as a student, first. Learning first-hand what it really means to Love Another Way.


I’m a really private person - do I have to participate in the SECRET group or the Calls?

It’s entirely up to you how much you want to participate. You can watch the group discussion without ever typing a word. You can be live on the Progress Calls or simply watch the replays. The choice is entirely yours. You are in a 100% safe space and will never be asked to do anything that makes you uncomfortable.

I have a therapist and/or a group I already attend. Is this program suitable for me?

Interesting fact: my students refer me to their therapists over and over. My students’ therapists refer their other clients back to me! This experience works beautifully with therapy and other group programs. It's designed to be used alongside your current therapy or group program to help you reach your goals faster.

My child also has a mental illness. Is this a good fit for me?

It is impossible to diagnose or treat mental illness while a person is using drugs or alcohol. Individuals must enter recovery before the mental illness can be tackled. However, my process works just as well if you have a child with only a mental illness. You are still in the right place.

Delightful surprise. Once Eric was in recovery, he had ZERO mental illnesses remaining.

When will my child commit to recovery?

I don’t know.

However, I do know that your child makes “micro-choices” on the way to recovery. My program helps you see, appreciate, and respond to their progress. You can “be mom” without having to “fix” your child.

And I do know that this type of approach is the only way your child has a CHANCE to choose recovery.

I’m the grandmother, can I still join? Or is this just for parents?

The short answer is YES! This program works well for anyone who loves an addict. Grandparents, fathers, stepparents, aunts, and uncles, etc. We are glad you are here, and we're here to help!

Can I join if my friend is an addict?

Yes, the process is the same.

What does the program cost?

Rehab and therapy have probably cost you thousands of dollars by now. The Transformative Boundaries Experience works, as you’ve read above. Best of all, it’s only one payment of $1497 or 3 easy payments of $597. You can join here.

What happens when the 8 weeks are over?

When the 8 weeks are over, it’s not the end of the journey. You have lifetime access to all the trainings in your private membership platform.

You have your own 100% private login as soon as you sign up below. No one else will ever know you’re logged in.

Plus, We’ll jump on a private call to identify what you’ve put in place and how comfortable you are with it. We’ll create a personalized plan to maintain the healing & growth of both you AND your child forever onward.

What will happen when I sign up?

It’s simple. You enter your secure payment info and get taken to my Welcome Page. You see a welcome video from me and steps to get started.

You also get an email from me with exactly what to do so you have access right away.

And I know it might feel weird buying on the internet and that technology is scary. Tech is my biggest headache in doing this work, and I stumble through it. I will help you every step of the way with any tech challenges you might have.

How can I join?

Click Here to be taken to the 100% SSL Secure Order Form! (If the page doesn’t load, we’re already full!)

I hope you find a pocket of joy in your day today.


Certified Family Recovery Specialist (CFRS)

** Due to the sensitive nature of this subject and the shame many parents feel, some names and photos have been changed. The quotes are real.

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