Tried Everything. Nothing Worked. Until Now.
How THIS MOM Saved Her Relationship With Her Son and Developed a Modern Solution for Other Moms Who Have Adult Children Making Bad Choices or Behaving Badly.
Using My Love Another Way Framework(™)
It’s Time To Break Free of the "Mom Code" So You Can Make a Real Difference For Your Child
(Mom Code - automatic behavior based on your natural maternal instincts.)
You have always made decisions via the "Mom Code." Of course you have! We all follow this natural instinct. You protect your child. You offer your unconditional love and support. Especially when your child seems to be struggling.
But what happens when your adult child's path veers away from what you had hoped?
This is where the "Love Another Way" Framework comes in, challenging the traditional "Mom Code." It's about understanding that your well-intentioned actions might not always yield the results you desire with your adult child.
Embracing a new approach can be daunting, yet it's necessary for growth and understanding. It's time to move beyond traditional instincts and adopt a strategy that fosters healthier, more effective interactions with your adult child.
Which One Sounds Most Like You?
You know how it feels. You’ve been carrying the weight of
your adult child’s choices for a while now?
But even with the best intentions, you just aren't able to "fix" them.
We're here to tell you: There’s hope!
THE GOOD NEWS IS THIS. You can still communicate your love and support for your child. You can do this while protecting your well-being. You can do this in a way that improves your child’s chance of making better choices.
You can learn to Love Another Way.
Built on my own Love Another Way Framework.
And ONLY available right here.
It’s time to stop using the “Mom Code”.
Loving Another Way helps you move out of that instinctual "Mom Code", by shifting the dynamic of your relationship with your son or daughter, as you move into a new parenting approach.
This new approach guarantees a better quality of life for you. And this new approach is what gives your child the best chance possible of improving his or her quality of life.
This is the only available step-by-step actual strategy for Moms.
When it seems like your family is falling apart, there is hope.
The Transformative Boundaries Experience
is the most effective way to give your child opportunities to thrive while you regain peace in your home and your heart.
Self-doubt. Guilt. Worry.
It's time to stop living with these feelings. Take control of your life today.
It's time to turn weakness into strength and hope for your child.
Take control of your life today.
Love by itself is just not enough.
You can develop the very specific skills you need to Love Another Way. The Transformative Boundaries Experience is built to do exactly that. You practice using your new skills of love, strength, and consistency in the proper way. Doing this is what actually allows opportunities for your child to make better choices and thrive..
Imagine knowing the right words to say. Imagine knowing how to set truly Transformative Boundaries. Imagine knowing how to do this all in a way that shows your unwavering love and support.
Meet the secret weapon for surviving this. What if you had the right kind of support? What if you weren’t relying solely on that "Mom Code" parenting instinct? What if the people you talk with really understood what you are going through?
Imagine if you didn’t feel so desperate and helpless about what to do NOW.
It's time to stop worrying about your child's future.
We can help you finally conquer years of self-doubt and worry. And do that while actually giving your son or daughter tools they need to achieve their potential in life.
You Know Exactly How This Feels
You are a solution-oriented mom:
- Longing to stop the painful overwhelm and welcome more peace and control into your life.
- Open to radical new ideas.
- Eager to build a healthier, more supportive relationship with your child.
- Ready to roll up your sleeves and take action with a plan that guides your every step.
If that’s you, I’m so glad you found your way here.
Because this is different from anything else you’ve tried.
This just plain works!
(Because it is crafted exactly for Moms like you.)
Works For...
Every MOM who has ever worked it!
Your life is about to change.
The Transformative Boundaries Experience is an 8-week group journey designed specifically for women who are ready to reclaim their own well-being. It is for women eager to support their adult children in a new way.
It is for women seeking peace, confidence and something that finally works.
Your Experience starts the moment you step inside The Transformative Boundaries Experience. You feel safe, heard, and appreciated. Confusion and frustration begin to subside. Hope renews.
You worry all the time about your child’s welfare. There is no time left for you. But it doesn't have to be this way.
… You know that feeling. When your son or daughter is struggling, every choice feels like the wrong one. Imagine being free of that constant worry. Imagine not having to second-guess yourself everyday. Imagine not thinking ALL the time about whether your choice will help or harm your child.
… Imagine being able to sleep through the night.
Don't worry. You don't have to imagine it.
You DO have some power left. Use that power to make a positive change in your own life. And when you do, you'll encourage your child to make healthier choices too.
It All Starts Here!
Over the course of 8 weeks you discover:
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Have questions about The Transformative Boundaries Experience?
It’s Time To Connect Your Head To Your Heart, Step-By-Step...
STEP #1: Understand the strangleholds impacting your life
What are your expectations for your relationship? What do you envision? Before you can answer those questions, it’s vital you unravel things.
It’s vital to recognize the truth about the challenges your son or daughter is facing. The person you interact with now may seem different from the child you once nurtured and raised. Yet, remember that your child, despite these struggles, is still the same person at heart. They may be hidden behind their current difficulties, but they are still there.
Give yourself permission to grieve the ‘loss’ of the child you expected to have at this time. It’s okay to not be okay.
Let me guess, you’ve sidetracked your own dreams and goals to be present for your child. But at what cost? We’ll gently focus on these ideas. You will discover how to get back to yourself. And you’ll start to understand why you must do so to help your child.
You deserve more. No matter how painful or challenging your situation, YOU, Dear Mom, require nurturing too. Peace and joy are your birthright! Let’s hit “pause” and shine a light on your dreams. That way, you’re energized to reset your priorities and pick a few select goals to help you bloom again.
Zero in on the #1 thing you DO have control over, that can instantly begin improving your relationship. It’s time to stop lamenting the past and move ahead more powerfully ― for yourself and your child.
And yes, you’re ready.
STEP #2: Don’t repeat your old mistakes. Unearth lessons of the past to prepare for new boundaries
What boundaries have you already tried with your child? What were the choices available at the time? What was the impact on your child’s behavior? What would you have done differently?
Your life is about to change. Examine vital questions like these in a personalized, systematic manner. Then, you can begin building NEW Transformative Boundaries. Your Transformative Boundaries rest on a solid foundation. This solid foundation comes from your clear-minded assessment, instead of in-the-moment panic. You ensure a better response and avoid repeating past mistakes.
You don’t have to feel this way anymore. Let’s whittle away at the frenzy of trying to react the “right” way, right away, whenever your child reaches out. You deserve to make composed, focused decisions you can feel proud and certain of.
STEP #3: Build strong boundaries that serve your needs
Boundaries. There’s a secret to creating successful boundaries almost ALL parents miss - and now you’re in the know.
What makes a successful relationship boundary? What’s fantasy and wishful thinking, and what’s REAL? How can you tell the difference? What are the pitfalls? (and yes, they’re lurking everywhere) How can you speak your truth and stop tiptoeing around?
Imagine finally understanding why your child reacts the way they do. The Transformative Boundaries Experience is carefully crafted. It’s actually set up to help you create and refine meaningful boundaries that are right for you. It helps you measure the impact. And it allows you to finally make a real and positive difference with your child.
No matter what is going on with your son or daughter, your child is still responsible for their choices. With The Transformative Boundaries Experience, you start building personal resilience and control. This allows you to better help your child stand on their own. This prevents you from getting knocked down with every interaction.
STEP #4: It’s time to put your “big girl” pants on.
It’s time! Over the next three weeks, you’ll select, personalize, and practice 3 boundaries. You choose 3 separate topics you wish to address with your adult child. Equipped with these new boundaries, you stop second guessing yourself. You make decisions in a more calm, quiet, consistent way.
Experiment, iterate, test, evaluate! It’s okay, you’re perfectly safe. You’ll tweak and adjust to optimize your influence and results.
Stop feeling alone. Share your experiences as much (or as little) as you wish with other parents in the group. That way, you feel supported, empowered, and understood. Plus, you get your questions answered. You discover new perspectives for success with your boundaries and in your relationship.
You don’t have to do this alone.
The Transformative Boundaries Experience provides both of the key components you need. It includes the Love Another Way model itself, and it includes a very special community.
Both are critically important!
And both are included.
My Love Another Way model develops your skill. You discover exactly how to set and hold loving boundaries with your child. (Both professionals and the adult “kids” we talk with tell us that this is what they most need from us moms.)
My special community provides the support, inspiration, and new ideas you must have.
Loving Another Way.
Setting Transformative Boundaries.
Changing EVERYTHING!
What triggered you joining TTBE at this point in your journey?
I was in crisis with our son and about to lose my mind with making decisions and trying to help him in a way that was actually helping him. Nothing so far had really helped me see the mom code and that it wasn't helping. I also couldn't get on the same page with my husband or the counselor we were seeing. I had to find another way to love him that didn't feel like abandonment and rejection - aka "tough love." I now feel confident that loving him another way is the best way to move forward for all of us.
Danielle
… No more fighting. You start enjoying more days of peace. You are relieved to be providing your child with opportunities to choose to help him or herself.
… You know you are doing everything you can for your child.
… You sleep. At least some of the time. Your mind is often free from that constant worry. You start to feel a little like your old self.
… Life is full. You catch yourself actually having more time, energy and focus for yourself. Other people you love notice that you are more present. You delight in getting back to doing some of the things you love.
… There's a model for this. A step-by-step model. You’re relieved knowing what to do when your child reaches out to you about something new.
Where Has My Son Gone and Who Is This Imposter?
On December 4, 2013, my almost perfect life crashes and burns, when I receive a disturbing phone call about my son.
This conversation is going to turn my world upside down. I've taught the right values, surrounded my boys with loving family, and worked hard at being a good parent. My reward is my happy family and my healthy grown children. I know I delivered two wonderful men to the world.
That is what I know to be true before that phone call.
Now, at almost 22, my intelligent, literate son has suddenly slipped into psychosis. He’s landed in the hospital. The doctors are unsure whether Eric’s problems are a result of mental illness or drug usage.
I am confused and in terror.
It becomes obvious, to me, that I did something wrong. I fell asleep at the wheel. I allowed bad things to happen in my family.
It's my fault, so it's up to me to find a way to “fix” it.
This is the start of MY journey.
My son is lost.
I push and pull every way I can to find him. I meet lots of people, many compassionate and helpful, others not so much. Along the way, there is an intervention, and Eric is admitted to a psychiatric facility. There are arrests and jail time.
There are many periods when I lose contact with Eric as he lives homeless and in a state of continual anger at me.
When I think about Eric, my heart aches.
I live in worry about his safety and welfare and cannot seem to focus on anything else. My pain is constant and intense, and I feel powerless to change things.
I start to work informally with parents who are in pain and feel powerless to help their child. I also talk with lots of parents who have moved beyond the pain. I talk with parents who were able to find peace and joy, not connected in any way to their child’s well-being.
Patterns emerge.
What started as an attempt to fix someone eventually became a lesson in fixing myself.
It's not an easy lesson to learn, but learning it changed my life.
And it changed Eric's life also.
It was a painful and scary journey. But finding peace and joy in my life while my son was at risk and in active addiction was something I had to do. I didn't achieve this all the time, but did manage to find more and more minutes each day, every day.
I retired from the corporate world. I decided to spend my “golden years” helping as many parents as I can get as much peace as possible. This is the purpose my mind keeps coming back to.
This is what my heart keeps pulling me to. So many parents are wrestling with similar demons and living in pain.
I need to share as much of what I’ve learned.
So, here I am, inviting you to join me in The Transformative Boundaries Experience...
Update on Eric...
Eric is now in recovery (recovery date 4/30/18). He got there not because of what I did, but because of what he learned and did. I truly enjoy every moment I spend with him and am blessed to have him working on this project on the tech side of things. I feel incredibly proud of the work he has done and the person he has become.
I found my own peace long before Eric entered recovery. I know I now have the support and tools I need to weather whatever life brings.
Eric is a tech genius and helping me put this program together and deliver it to all of you. He is 1000% behind what I’m doing here, and I would not be doing it or telling my story without his full blessing.
I’m Giving Away My Secrets
The Transformative Boundaries 8-Week Online Training Program. It features 4 Modules & 4 Secret Messages. I walk you through, step-by-step, EXACTLY how I healed myself & my son. And I give you the tools I built out of my experiences.
Module 1:
Your priorities are about to change. ‘Transformative Priorities' gives you a step-by-step recipe. This novel approach helps you identify clear REAL priorities for your life. This clarity is a must to move past your child’s challenges. Realizing that YOU have priorities is key. Making sure they are the right priorities is key. Shift the impact your child’s difficulties have on your life.
Imagine actually having a structured plan of HOW to get what you want. Lisa has one now.
Picture this: waking up feeling healthy. Living a life based on your true priorities.
Picture this. Kim is so pumped by this change she's making for herself that she decides to post the key slide all around her house.
Module 2:
You're about to take a look into the past. Boundaries Retrospective helps you get clear on positive & negative boundaries between you and your child. This sets the stage for Module 3.
Module 2 is where you start to feel freedom to set boundaries that you actually feel good about, like Susan M.
You start to finally see the difference between a fantasy and a Transformative Boundary.
You thought you were stuck. But you're not. You just never had the right tools before.
It's the secret sauce. The secret sauce is in the tools I've built just for moms. And in the way these tools work together, so you can use boundaries constructively like Karen G.
You don't have to be this way. Move out of your same old worn patterns. It's time for something new. Start fresh today.
Module 3:
Don't be fooled by anyone. There is no magic bullet.
The Boundary-Benefit Evaluation Exercise leads you step-by-step through options you have. It is very carefully designed. You think about things you haven't considered before. You get to a place where you make the choice that is most beneficial for BOTH you and your child. You learn what truly makes a boundary transformative. Because it is the “transformative” aspect that inspires a child to choose recovery!
This framework takes everything into account. Literally
Imagine how Ann felt when she realized she had more options than she thought she had.
But here's the thing: Everyone's choice is different. You pick what is healthy for you, as Donna S points out. No one size fits all solutions here!
Delight in knowing you've chosen the best option for your family. Stop worrying about whether you've made the right choice.
This is easy. Like Jacque M goes on to say. (You too can do this!)
It's not at all overwhelming. With minute-by-minute guidance, it's actually pretty easy.
It's simple. Yet effective. And thought provoking.
YOU can do this too! It’s easy.
Module 4:
‘Practice” is where you try out your new boundary decision-making skills. This final step helps you enter the real world with confidence in yourself. This final step is where you develop confidence in your child as well. And that's key
And always, you are experimenting. You are learning what is right for you and your family.
It's ok. Like Maxine, you are feeling so relieved to know that nothing’s carved in stone. Because how can you know what you can bear - what will be useful - until you experiment? No "final answers" here!
Say goodbye to perfect. The program is laid out very intentionally so you can build your courage, your muscle in these tough situations. You find you CAN set boundaries that are right for you. You too are so proud of yourself for being able to do what is best for both you and your child.
You know it's happening. Your evolution. As you work through this important Practice, Practice, Practice module.
Hear from other graduates about how they handle these situations.
- Allowing your child contact with his or her child.
- Challenges in raising your grandchild at this time in your life.
- Child blaming mom for everything.
- Child “borrowing” money.
- Child not doing what you expect around the house.
- Child overstaying welcome in the family home.
- Managing phone calls and texts.
- Transportation choices.
- And so much more.
It's gold. Just take a look at a very small sampling of how useful it is to actually hear the in-the-moment thought process of graduates, as they are coached through their boundary decision making process. Pure Gold!
Heal Yourself.
4 Secret Step-By-Step Healing Messages per week via email.
These healing messages tell you EXACTLY what to do to make progress. Imagine being clear on what exact thing to do each week. Picture yourself making noticeable and meaningful progress each & every day.
Imagine a day when your child’s challenges no longer control your life.
These secret messages erase the negative thoughts and fears you have, day by day. These messages help you lead a more loving, stress-free, & fun life with your family! All while giving your child his or her best chance at recovery.
You are not alone. We are here to help.
LIVE weekly group coaching with your Graduate Coach and other parents.
Each and every week throughout the program you'll join a live Progress Call with a Graduate Coach.
Graduate Coaches know, first-hand, what it means to have a son or daughter who is struggling and and have completed the Transformative Boundaries Experience as a student, first. Learning first-hand what it really means to Love Another Way.
And now they want to give back by helping you on your journey toward Loving Another Way.
Imagine having their undivided attention. Focused on YOUR progress. Helping you choose what's most important for you. Offering suggestions along the way.
So that the next time your child texts or calls for money and then gets abusive or manipulative, you can say "no." You can simply remember what your Graduate Coach told you... and you exit the conversation with your loved one, with calm and grace.
You asked. I answered.
Each month, I personally host a gathering for everyone in The Transformative Boundaries Experience, where you can get my direct feedback on any issue that is present for you at that time.
You've been thinking about it. Wondering if it's right for you. Go deeper.
When I set a boundary, this is what happened... Share and get my input.
Life is full of priorities. Which ones should you focus on first? Talk it through here.
Share something that's changed for you. We'd like to applaud your growth. Others will learn from you.
... It's completely up to you!
Just know that I will be here for you, ready to help YOU sift through the noise to find your truth. Then make the choices that best align with your needs and priorities.
I know how this feels. On these calls, you find out what’s working RIGHT NOW. You discover innovative ways to respond to any situation between you and your child. And you realize how to do this in a way that encourages recovery for both of you.
These calls are life-changing.
Just ask our students how impactful these calls are.
Our students regularly rate these calls as 5 out of 5. Here is a small sampling of some of the recent comments.
What are you grateful for and why?
Barbara Decker! You are so smart, poised and knowledgeable. You remember everyone's story and really care about your students. I am truly amazed at how you can size up a person's question in a heartbeat and provide a perfect, well-explained answering. You are never condescending and so encouraging. I am so grateful you followed the perfect path for you!
Beth
Note 4. 4-18 Mom harnessed her power by anchoring in here priorities
Validating that what I am doing now is a very positive and I don't have to go it alone anymore. It feels wonderful to be understood and be a part of this group. Barbara you are wonderful!
Lillian
What suggestions do you have for improving TTBE?
I think the coaching calls are great. It has been so very helpful just to hear other moms talk about their difficulties. I love it that nobody judges each other. It's even helpful to just listen in on these. I appreciated the fact that when I respond to a video, you always comment.
Sue
How professionally it was managed, the clarity of the guidelines, the accuracy of the information given, and the kindness and encouragement from Barbara and the participants. It was excellent! What a Godsend!
Sue G
I find it rejuvenating when Barbara helps us. She takes the sting out of our hurts.
Pat C
Barbara is very good at deciphering out the problem for each of us and giving us the tools to focus on what we can do in each case
Kay C
Barbara has such a great way of putting us mom’s on track! She has been there and shares her experiences and knowledge of dealing with adult children who are struggling …. Too bad we can’t get Barbara in a bottle to keep in our home; however this coach a thon rocked!
Jane L
I guess I would have to say that I didn't feel rushed, and felt that Barbara was giving me ample time and attention to answer my question to her. Also I love the fact that we are never made to feel bad if we make a choice that we know is wrong, even as we are making it.
Darlene
Secret Group where you get to ask questions ANY TIME. No judgment. Safe place to be yourself.
You'll get answers from your coaches. You'll get answers from other mothers in the group to accelerate your healing process! Best of all, this group is COMPLETELY SECRET and no one but the other members & me will know you're in it. It cannot be found by anyone else.
This a SAFE, confidential, no-judgment zone.
Imagine this. A place where you can get answers to your questions - fast. A place where you can share experiences with other moms who understand what you're going through. A place where you can be part of something bigger than yourself. This is a truly special place.
BONUS #1: The LoveAnotherWay JumpStart Guide
We developed this bonus primarily for moms grappling with addiction issues in their children. However, upon consulting our community, including those not dealing with addiction, the feedback was overwhelmingly in favor of its inclusion. They found the insights valuable, even when viewed through a broader lens.
The JumpStart Guide offers immediate access to concise, impactful resources:
- Videos and audio clips featuring narratives from recovering individuals.
- Insights from professionals in the field.
- Stories from mothers who have navigated their own healing journeys and restored harmony within their families.
These resources, though initially framed around addiction, provide universal wisdom and encouragement for all mothers facing challenging circumstances with their children.
Angie
BONUS #2: Real Moms — Real Insights
This is where you hear real moms making real progress in their own real journeys. You’ll hear their struggles. You’ll hear their breakthroughs.
Real Moms — Real Insights includes relevant segments of live coaching calls. I’ve curated and ordered these segments to provide inspiration to you - for your own journey.
You've never seen anything like this before. This is one of the most powerful resources I've ever created, because you'll get bite-sized inspiration as you work through the program, right alongside past participants.
- You'll hear how they felt and thought through their decisions.
- You'll hear what worked, and what they learned.
- You'll feel inspired to apply your new approach to loving your child, knowing that if these other moms could do it - you can do it, too!
These women will look familiar to you.
As one past participant who has asked to be anonymous said: "I recognize these ladies as friends and I don't even know them."
I know you'll feel the same when you access the Real Moms -- Real Insights bonus.
BONUS #3: Private Next-Steps Call
Life is about to change. After your 8 life-changing weeks in The Transformative Boundaries Experience, we get on a call. We create your personalized plan and keep the momentum going.
Your goal is to maintain the healing & growth of both you AND your child forever onward. This guarantees that you’re doing everything you can to heal yourself & your child. Imagine how relaxed you are for the rest of your life knowing that you’ve done everything you can.
Best of all, this program only requires about 30 minutes per day, 5 days per week.
All this is accessible through our website. No one else will ever know you're logged in. And you receive LIFETIME access to the course materials, so you can revisit the lessons anytime you need a refresher. You can reference them anytime a new problem or boundary need arises with your child.
Have questions about The Transformative Boundaries Experience?
Mental Peace Is Priceless. What’s Yours Worth?
First, ask yourself what your mental peace and your child making better life choices is worth to you.
It’s worth everything.
- To be free of the constant pain.
- To see your son or daughter taking positive steps to make a better future for themselves.
- To wake each morning and go to bed each night with peace in your heart.
- To no longer feel helpless and hopeless.
- To know for sure that your decisions are what is best for your child.
- To reclaim the relationships you have lost with others you care about.
And on and on I could go.
Every mother would say it's priceless. But what exactly does priceless equate to? It's up to you.
Priceless is up to each Mom to decide for herself.
Many have told me they'd give everything they have, just to feel normal again for one day.
The Transformative Boundaries Experience includes:
All the bonuses included:
Challenging behaviors in our adult children can be overwhelming, and it’s not a journey to face alone.
The total value of The Transformative Boundaries Experience is over $8,000.
But this information is not just for the wealthy.
So I've made it as affordable as possible.
In fact, I’m not even going to charge you $5,000…
Even though you’ve probably spent FAR more than that on different therapists, counselors and solutions that failed to help you and your child.
I know I did.
While I know that I COULD charge $5,000 for The Transformative Boundaries Experience and I’d still sleep soundly at night...
I want to make this as easy as possible for any Mom to access...
Because I want to fulfill the promise I made to myself during my own journey trying to “help” Eric.
I know what it’s like to see someone you love turn into a manipulative monster right before your eyes.
The pain you feel inside because it seems like there’s nothing that can be done... Until now.
And the idea that bad behaviors are just a fact of life that we have to accept...
Well I just don’t agree.
I almost lost my inner peace…
And my child.
I don’t want you to lose yours, too.
That is why I created The Transformative Boundaries Experience for you.
And that's why, when you say YES to a clear mind and your child's best chance at living the life you envision for him or her...
You won’t need to spend $5,000.
Heck, you won’t even need to spend $2,500.
Your investment today is just 3 equal payments of $597 (or a one time investment of $1497.)
Don’t Feel Powerless Anymore!
Every day that you live with the uncertainty about how to do what is best for you and what is best for your child. What is the feeling of powerlessness costing you?
You know how it is. As parents, if supporting or helping our child out of their pain means spending many thousands of dollars to do so, we will find a way, even if we can’t afford it.
But when it comes time to invest in help for ourselves, well, that’s often a different story.
Since you’re here, you already know that in order to give your child the best chance at choosing recovery, you need to look after your own well being first.
You are deserving. You matter too. You are so worth it.
I was to a point in my life where I faced each day with very little hope, I was going through the motions, and to be perfectly honest, didn't really care if I lived another day. I knew I had to do something for me because if I didn't there might be dire consequences.
Karen J.
What would you like to be acknowledged for?
I would like to be acknowledged for my courage in stepping out of my Mom Code.
Donna S
It’s Time To Make A Change.
Get Started For As Little As $597 Today
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Frequently Asked Questions
We know how important this is. That's why we've included the most important information as concisely as possible. Check it out.
Are you for real?
Yes, I’m for real. :) My journey over eight long years to try to help my son was a deep dive into what works, what doesn't, and how to make the right choices in the midst of overwhelming stress. I learned valuable lessons (a lot of them the hard way) about successfully dealing with adult children who are not behaving in the ways we would like.
Now my goal is to share this wisdom to help you find clarity and solutions much faster than I did. I lost so many days because I was stressed out and unable to think clearly.
Does The Transformative Boundaries Experience work?
It sure does. The Transformative Boundaries Experience is a lifeline for parents like you and me, dealing with kids who are really struggling, no matter the underlying reason. This program isn’t just a bunch of theories; it’s what I personally used to pull myself and my son out of a tough spot. It’s about healing, rebuilding trust, and getting back that loving bond.
And you know what? It’s not just us. This program has touched the lives of thousands of moms, helping them find their way and, quite often, helping their kids find theirs too. It's all about real change, real healing, and real love.
Heather
Is this Tough Love?
Not at all. Our approach at The Transformative Boundaries Experience is far from the traditional notion of 'Tough Love.' We understand that imposing strict, heart-wrenching rules isn’t always the answer… especially when you're dealing with a relationship that's already on delicate ground.
You know your child and your situation better than anyone else. So instead of pushing you towards rigid measures that might push your child further away, we provide a variety of tools, personalized advice, and unwavering support. This empowers you to explore different approaches and find what truly resonates with your life.
Think of it as a more nurturing, supportive way to guide your child with an approach that strengthens your bond rather than straining it. We’re redefining what it means to show love in these challenging situations, focusing on healing and recovery.
How much time will this take?
Just set aside about 2-3 hours each week – that's all it takes to make a solid start. And if you have a bit of extra time, you can go through the bonus content for deeper insights. The program is 8 weeks long, and you have lifetime access to the program materials in the membership platform.
Am I doing this alone?
Absolutely not. You're stepping into a community of incredible women, each offering support and understanding. Together, we create a space where we share genuine, heartfelt connections and even lifelong friendships.
And the best part is our group is a safe haven, completely private and confidential. Only members know about its existence, ensuring your participation stays discreet and secure. You're joining a circle of trust and care, invisible to the outside world.
How much support will I get?
You’ll have more support than you need. We’re here for you, every single step of the way.
From the start, you have access to our private group. It’s like a secret hub where our coaches and other moms just like you are always on hand. They’re ready to answer your questions, even over the weekend. It's like having a support team at your fingertips.
Plus every week, you have a live group coaching call with one of our Graduate Coaches. They’re special because they have been exactly where you are with their own child. They’ve walked this path and come out knowing a whole new way to love and support. That’s the kind of real, lived experience they bring to your journey.
What are you grateful for and why?
My family was very skeptical of the online class. Told me I was wasting my money. But i certainly found value in it.
Ann
I’m a really private person - do I have to participate in the SECRET group or the Calls?
As an introvert myself, I totally get it. Your privacy is important, and we leave it up to you to decide how much you want to join in. It’s 100% ok if you just want to read the group chats without commenting. On the other hand, if you need to pour out your heart, you’re in a safe place to express anything. Everyone in the group understands and there’s a lot of support but absolutely no pressure to chime in.
When it comes to the Progress Calls, that’s your choice too. You can join the live call or catch up later with the replays.
We're all about creating a safe, comfortable space and meeting your needs. You'll never be pushed to do anything that you don’t want to do.
The main focus is on providing the tools, wisdom, and support so you can regain control over your own calm and peace.
I have a therapist and/or a group I already attend. Is this program suitable for me?
Absolutely, and here's something interesting for you. Many of my students told their therapists about their experiences with us, and guess what? We hear these therapists often recommending our program to their other clients. Because our program is supportive of each mom taking into account her individual situation, other therapists find it works well with existing therapy or any other group programs.
Think of the Transformative Boundaries Experience as a supportive addition to your coping toolkit. It’s designed to assist your current support system. We enhance whatever you're doing to help you achieve your goals even faster. We’re all about giving you an extra layer of understanding and tools, not replacing things that are currently helping.
My child has an addiction or a mental illness. Is this a good fit for me?
Definitely. This work grew out of my navigating my son’s own mental health and addiction issues along with other challenges in my life.
When will my child change how we interact or how he/she behaves?
That's a question I can't answer for sure. Every child's path is unique, and there's no one-size-fits-all timeline to reach maturity.
That said, I strongly believe you can find better ways of coping with your child by watching for many small, yet significant, decisions they make. I call them "micro-choices" and they are the stair steps to improvement.
We help you recognize and positively respond to these subtle yet important steps your child takes. When you rebuild your relationship using these powerful tools, you become the supportive mom you want to be, without feeling the pressure to fix everything.
While there's no guaranteed formula, changing the way you interact and support your child creates a better environment that nurtures their ability to make healthier choices. It's about giving them the space and the chance to move toward recovery at their own pace.
I’m not the mom, can other family members or close friends join?
Yes, you can certainly join! This program is not just for moms; it's for anyone who cares deeply for someone facing these challenges.
When family members and friends understand and support the principles of this program, it creates a stronger network of support for both the moms and the adult children. In fact, your involvement can possibly make a significant difference, and we're here to support you every step of the way.
What does the program cost?
If you’re reading this you've probably already invested a lot into trying to help your child. I’ve been there and know therapy and programs to help are costly, both financially and emotionally. That’s why I try to make The Transformative Boundaries Experience something you can access without adding too much to your already heavy load.
The cost is $1497 for a single payment, but to make it more manageable I also offer a split payment option – 3 installments of $597 each. I hope this makes it a bit easier for you to join us sooner.
If you're thinking about joining and have some questions, you can schedule a quick call so we can answer your questions here. We're ready to welcome you with open arms.
What happens when the 8 weeks are over?
Think of the 8-week mark as a new beginning after you absorb the information you’ll need to move ahead successfully. You keep lifetime access to every training on your private membership platform. This means you can go back and review them anytime you need a boost or want to deepen your understanding.
Your login is totally private so you don’t have to be self-conscious about needing support. No one else will know when you’re online unless you respond to something or start a new discussion in the private group.
Plus, we set up a personal call to really dig into your individual progress and future goals. Together, we’ll craft a plan that's all about keeping up the momentum, ensuring you and your child continue to heal and grow. So these 8 weeks are laying the groundwork for lasting change.
What happens when I sign up?
Signing up is a breeze. After you securely enter your payment details, you go straight to my Welcome Page. There, you'll find a personal welcome video from me, along with clear, easy steps to kickstart your journey.
I also send you an email that spells out everything you need to get started so you can dive in right away.
My team and I understand that technology can be challenging for some. We’re here to make things as easy as possible for you. If anything isn’t clear or if you have a hard time getting things to work properly, we provide the same caring support for tech issues as we do for any of your other concerns.
My end goal is to share everything I’ve learned in order to save others from going through the same trial and error process I went through with my son. The rewards are greater than I ever imagined, and I want you to experience the same.
How can I join?
Ready to start? Just Click Here to go to our secure sign-up page. It's quick and 100% safe.
If the page doesn’t pop up, it means we're full for now and you can check back later to see if spots have opened up.
If you have questions, Click Here to talk with a graduate coach. We're here to answer all your questions and make sure you feel good about joining. We can't wait to have you with us!
** Due to the sensitive nature of this subject and the shame many parents feel, some names and photos have been changed. The quotes are real.
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Stacy Davis I, too, am currently a student of Barbara's and the training takes you through your behaviors and beliefs that may not have worked in the past hence started a search for more. Barbara spends alot of time putting modules together, sending out daily emails filled with information and filled with new thought processes for you and your child. We also have a weekly Zoom meeting - the time and effort and caring she puts in is undeniably helpful