As a mom of an addicted “child”, I never "got through" to my son - until I learned to speak with POWER (and inspire change inside of him).
My son’s addiction showed me the truth:
I understand that parents of individuals with addictions and/or mental illness face incredible pain.
But now I know we also have incredible power.
Because I remember the dark days when my son’s addiction invaded every part of my life.
Visits from the police. Missing belongings.
I tried to reason with him.
I tried pleading with him.
But it was like my words hit a brick wall.
When my son was home, there was constant shouting.
And when he left, I lost sleep worrying if he was safe.
I would try to contact him but he only ignored me.
Of course until the next crisis hit and I’d get a late night phone call begging for help once again.
When I thought about how he was throwing his life away - I would clench my jaw in frustration and anger...
...only to break down crying a few minutes later.
Constantly wondering if I did something wrong to cause this.
I tried everything I could
to get through to him.
But nothing worked.
To make matters worse, there were always well-meaning friends and family who were eager to give advice.
Some said I was too tough on my son, others said I wasn’t tough enough.
I went to support groups and also read every book I could find.
None of it prepared me for when it was my own flesh and blood on the phone with me.
that’s when I met a wise clinician.
She showed me a different way of relating to my son.
At first it seemed so unnatural... a little, well… selfish.
But it was exactly what my son needed - it was the best way I could love him at the time.
I began standing up for myself and speaking truth to my son.
And my words… began to reach the heart of my son - and to strengthen his inner will.
The will that WANTED to change... that wanted to recover.
By speaking to the part that wasn't "addicted."
For the first time in years,
I was confident in the way I handled things.
I accepted that I could not force anything on my son - but I finally felt in control of my own life.
I worried less and I no longer faced the emotional storm caused by my son’s disease.
But here’s the best part.
The power in my words not only brought peace to my life…
My words finally
got through to my son.
He finally changed.
He turned his life around.
Today he has a promising career and a loving relationship with a wonderful young lady.
He has come so far… and I’m so proud.
And according to my son…
…it was the shift in ME
that allowed HIM to choose recovery.
BOTH of our lives were changed…
…because of the power of words.
This is also why after these life lessons I dedicated my life to working with parents.
To teach them my communication approach.
They began speaking words that showed love, words that brought strength, and words that sparked change.
Most of all, these parents slept soundly…
...because they were certain they were speaking the RIGHT words for their child.
They began communicating with confidence.
Since then, I’ve seen these principles transform the lives of thousands of other parents and children.
And over the years, I’ve refined the most powerful communication tools into…
Four easy and effective steps.
With these four elements of communication, we won’t be “enabling” our children…
...but instead we’ll empower them to believe in themselves (and to change).
We speak with boldness and with tenderness - in a way that is actually heard.
And we speak with the decisiveness that comes from KNOWING deep down that we are doing what’s best.
It’s my driving passion to transform even more lives.
So I’ve created a brief but effective training on how to “Communicate with Confidence.”
The training is concise enough that parents quickly get the answers they need…
Answers that change lives…
the lives of parents…
and the lives of their children.
Now I want to be clear that communication is just one “piece of the puzzle” when dealing with our children.
Many parents also need help with setting boundaries, working with recovery professionals, or truly understanding their children’s pain.
And while I have training to help parents with all of those challenges…
I’ve also seen that sometimes the only “missing piece” for parents…
...is simply learning to communicate with confidence.
That’s why I’ve decided to offer this
communication training on its own.
For some parents, speaking words of power may be all they need to get the breakthrough they yearn for.
(And if parents need help with other “pieces of the puzzle,” know that I’m always here to help with those too.)
So right now…
...because I’m so eager to see lives changed through these simple but empowering principles...
I’m offering this
breakthrough communication training
for only $49.
That’s less than the price of a single session with most therapists.
Parents can dive into “Communicate with Confidence” right now online to learn:
- 1How to speak your truth even when your child doesn’t want to hear
"I've been there. It's hard being a mom. But hearing how other moms have gone through the same experiences and having the same emotions and fears and doubts and heartache etc has helped me a great deal."
- 2How to encourage healthy discussion your child actively participates in
"I love the phrases. I don't actually believe them yet but I love them and will use them! Fake it until you make it…"
- 3How to speak when your child opens up and is ready to change
“I just love it. It is so thorough and really hits on key points in communicating with our people who have addictions. Things like "change talk" really resonated with me.”
- 4How to calmly speak in the midst of chaos
“This course is a game changer. I had no idea how to talk to my son or act around him. It actually made me nervous because I didn't know how to approach him, what to think, or if I was going to say or do the wrong thing”
“Communicate with Confidence” is what I wish existed when my son faced his issues.
It would have saved me
YEARS of stress and wondering.
(Not to mention saving me thousands spent trying to help my son.)
“I love the guidebook”.
This is a straight to the point, actionable framework way to immediately have peaceful, productive conversations with your child.
If this doesn't help you open up a line of healthy communication with your child, you get 100% of your money back – guaranteed.
“It was totally awesome and came just at a time that I needed it most!”.
Students rate Communicate with Confidence with 5 stars being highest and 1 the lowest. The average rating is 4.6 out of 5. We also ask how much more confident students are and most are much more confident.
I’ve heard from countless parents about how just one insight or one technique from this training was the turning point for them.
“ooooh love that”
“I love this! I hope to keep saying this to my kids.”
“Very brave and strong - brought tears to my eyes.”
“The very ending of this video hit home. My truth is all about me.”
“This is helpful. WATCH THIS AGAIN”
And never forget...
Even when parents are facing situations that seem “hopeless”...
They have power.
I want parents to always remember that.
My son Eric wants them to remember too.
I hope you find a pocket of joy in your day today. You deserve it.
** Due to the sensitive nature of this subject and the shame many parents feel, some names and photos have been changed. The quotes are real.
“Each module took me at the right time to the next phase.”