10 Ways To Successfully Have A
Difficult Conversation Without Being
Totally Ignored Or Yelled At

For years, I felt caught between a rock and a hard place. All the time. Between my son Eric's struggles with mental illness and substance abuse, my folks' rapidly deteriorating health, and a high-stress work environment, I felt like I was shouting into the wind.

I wasn't being heard, my needs were forgotten. But, as I delved deeper, I unearthed a few life-changing communication techniques. These became my anchor when the world was spinning out of control. I found my voice again and began to make a difference — one heart-to-heart conversation at a time.

The weight of going unheard in conversations is deeply painful. But today's a new day. Take a step to ensure you're genuinely heard, respected, and confident in your communication, paving the way for transformation.

This is your chance to finally feel seen, heard, and understood in any conversation by your loved ones!

Here’s what just a sneak peek of of what you’ll discover inside:

Why listening to your loved one is a gift that you give them… And ultimately leads to change (sometimes without uttering a word!).
The importance of knowing what to say and how to say it. The strategy to achieve this is a favorite among all my students.
Think your loved one won’t even give you the time of day? Strategy #10 gives you the exact line to use so that they’ll hear you out.
Why just jumping into the conversation is rarely the best approach - And will probably end with regret over things you said or didn’t say. (Strategy #5 explains what to do instead.)

You are NOT the problem and your requests are NOT unreasonable. The key is learning to fight, not against loved ones, but for the relationship, peace, love, and solutions.

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"I loved all of this so much. My adult daughter has depression and anxiety and lives with me. Our conversations always end badly. I can't wait to try these strategies together." ~Sherri

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The apology secret no one's talking about – When saying sorry can be the most powerful tool in your arsenal, even when you're not in the wrong.
Unmask the art of true expression – Learn the fine line between speaking your mind and inviting unnecessary conflict. Be genuine without setting the room on fire!
The Larry King inspired listening technique – If you're looking to truly understand someone, this is the method they won't see coming.
Why preparing is more crucial than you think – The pre-conversation steps you’re skipping that could be the key to mutual understanding.

Navigate the tricky waters of 'Listening Mode' – Realize when to actively engage and when to simply be a shoulder to lean on, without feeling overwhelmed.
Body Language & Tone decoded – The powerful duo that can make or break a conversation. Plus, a teaser into a technique that can transform more than just conversations.
Building bridges – Unearth the tiny steps that help in moving from disagreements to finding that sliver of common ground.
Why you should always have an "out" – The graceful exit strategy to keep in your back pocket, ensuring conversations never reach a point of no return.
Maximize your entrance power – Ensure every conversation starts on the right foot. Why spontaneity might not be your best ally.

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"Because of abuse in childhood and in marriage I have always tip-toed around difficult conversations. Or avoided them completely. This has given me a lot to work with. Thank you." ~Joanne

Think your loved one won’t even give you the time of day? Strategy #10 gives you the exact line to use so that they’ll hear you out.
Why just jumping into the conversation is rarely the best approach - And will probably end with regret over things you said or didn’t say. (Strategy #5 explains what to do instead.)
Not mistaking which of the two “modes” the other person is in so that you can have a fruitful conversation. There are times to speak up in a conversation and times to let them speak (this dance ultimately leads to understanding between both people).
How your posture may be giving away your frustration and causing them to react in an adverse way. And recognizing certain cues described in Strategy #7 so that you can change your stance.

Shot of happy senior woman with her daughter at hospital

What to do if the other person is overbearing or aggressive. Strategies #5, #9, and #10 give you leverage in the conversation.
What to do if you need to retreat from a conversation! Sometimes it’s in our best interest to try having a conversation when both people are in a better emotional state… Strategy #9 reveals what to do if you want to try another time.
How to know if a conversation was productive or not. We don’t have to change the person on the spot… but Strategy #8 is a good way to assess if you’ve made progress.
Why listening to your loved one is a gift that you give them… And ultimately leads to change (sometimes without uttering a word!).

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“Everyone should know this, but we don’t. Thank you for sharing.” ~Charlene

The importance of knowing what to say and how to say it. The strategy to achieve this is a favorite among all my students.
How recognizing your own shortcomings can actually make the other person respect you more (and change their own flawed behavior).
The one thing to NEVER do unless the person sincerely asks you for it. It’s practically instinctual, yet you must AVOID DOING IT AT ALL COSTS (otherwise you may irreparably damage the relationship).

And As A Result You’re
Going To Be Able To…

Live in harmony with your loved one.
Feel confident that you have the appropriate words for any difficult conversion.
Know when to speak up in a conversation and recognize when it’s to your benefit to simply listen to the other person.
Regain your self-respect because you’re finally taking back control by standing your ground.
See a positive change in your loved one without forcing it.
Look forward to speaking with them.

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Real people are using these strategies to find their voice:

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As nervous as I was, every conversation went really well. This is a life lesson I will always cherish and use. ~Debby M.

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I knew what I wanted to say. If it is spoken with grace, was effective, and the other person gave their opposite view and that was ok. I spoke my truth.
~Nancy C.

Real people are using these strategies to deepen their relationships:

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One time he was visibly shocked when I responded in a positive way and we both laughed. I believe this strategy has brought us closer together and we are enjoying each other's company today. The change in our relationship makes me so happy. ~Debby M.

Real people are using these strategies to solutions instead of problems:

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I feel good after our conversations. I have found this strategy engages others more in conversation and quite often we talk about the advice and solutions more. ~Tena A.

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The other person responded with good communication back. The other person was calmed by my remaining calm...

I felt good using it. The other person felt validated. ~Nancy C.

Real people are using these strategies with their children:

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My son reacts in a much more receptive way to my advice now. Instead of just nodding and saying "yes, okay yes"... he actually engages in longer conversations where we discuss an issue he is having and then he solves it himself...

It personally makes me feel more compassionate and I feel empowered when I can walk away and think about a solution...

I feel like I am getting my son back and that he is growing toward being more independent. Brilliant!! ~Marlies C.

Real people are using these strategies to establish boundaries:

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I feel empowered knowing that I do not have to participate in a conversation that turns south. And while my son didn't like being shut down, he realized that it was best for both of us to exit the conversation. ~Melody W.

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I felt relieved to have that exit strategy - sticking to my boundaries has been much easier for me these days and I feel confident that I can stick to this one should things turn. ~Marlies C.

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I have used this a lot!! I know now that I do NOT have to listen to bad language! ~Joy K.

Real people are using these strategies with their clients:

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I use this with my patients and families... they are thankful. ~Nancy C.

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For 8 Years, It Felt Like My Son Eric and I Were On Separate Planets

It became quite clear that he was dealing with mental health issues and a hidden struggle with drugs.

On top of that, my dad was wrestling with cancer, my mom's mind was getting tangled up with Alzheimer's, and my boss gaslighted me and mansplained over and over.

Talk about a mountain of stress.

But here's the thing.

I knew what I needed most was to reach Eric.

I needed him to behave differently. Yet, his disease was running the show.

He lied.

It was like he fell off the face of the earth. He wouldn't answer my calls.

He left me worried about getting a heartbreaking knock at the door...
When I did see him, he just wasn’t the same. He was only a shell of who he used to be.

I tried everything to support him.

I prayed & prayed that all of my efforts would change who he was…

I gave him all the love & support a parent can possibly give…

But it didn’t seem to matter.

I felt like I couldn’t get through to him.

He didn’t listen. He misunderstood. He took things out of context.

Every conversation felt like walking through a minefield…

When we did communicate, it was filled with misinterpretations. It was like we spoke different languages.

I tried every method known to bridge the gap.

I hoped & hoped that all my efforts would forge a stronger connection so I can finally get through to him and make the changes he needed to make.

I gave it all the patience and understanding one could muster.

Yet, it felt like I was talking to a wall.

I felt like I couldn’t convey my true intentions.

And if you’re still reading this…

It’s probably because you’ve felt the same frustration.

How do you get your message across without causing more friction?

It's complex.

What words should you choose?

What tone should you adopt?

When is the right moment to broach a subject?

How much should you reveal?

What should you keep to yourself?

If these questions resonate, know you're not the only one.

Because here’s the reality:

Navigating communication without guidance is like navigating a maze in the dark.

I struggled with it for years, trying to foster genuine connections.

Years of misunderstandings.

Countless missed opportunities.

Endless conversations that led nowhere.

But after 8 years of trial and error I was able to hone in on my communication strategies and make REAL progress..

My relationships transformed.

All because I was able to truly 'hear and be heard' thanks to the raw, genuine insights on effective communication…

And now after decades of perfecting them, I’ve discovered everything I needed to bridge every gap.

Now, you can, too.

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Barbara

Barbara Decker, Certified Family Recovery Specialist (CFRS)

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** Due to the sensitive nature of this subject, some names and photos have been changed. The quotes are real.

10 Ways To Successfully Have A Difficult Conversation Without BeingTotally Ignored Or Yelled At